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Saturday, October 23, 2010

Why Don't You Love Me? A Curvy Girl's Ode to Outfit Posts

 I know what you're thinking. No, this post isn't about Beyonce. While I'm wildly obsessed with the singer and I happen to love the WDYLM video (posted about it HERE), this isn't about her. It's about me. Me and every other plus-sized fashion blogger out there who gets discouraged or thinks twice about posting an outfit series or exposing our curves to fashion communities like Chictopia or Lookbook.Nu to name a few. On my weekly blog-hunting trip this week, I stumbled on a post by curvy British blogger Jettica of Feeling Stylish entitled "Why Do I Need To Be Thin?" After reading her words and sentiments - a mix of curiosity and disappointment - I came to the realization that I too have the same insecurities and harsh feelings. Here's what she had to say...
 "It seems that on sites like LookBook or Chictopia you only get 'HYPE' and fans if you are thin...I sort of feel that I don’t get a great deal of comments or love on my blog because I’m a fat girl writing about fashion."
- Jettica of Feeling Stylish

After reading these words on Jettica's post, I became overwhelmed with a mixture of emotions. Part of me was angry. Not at Jettica, but at myself, for feeling the exact same way. "I mean, who cares? It's just a fashion community. It's just for fun, it doesn't mean anything", I uttered to myself in defense. As much I tried to shrug it off, the reality is - it does matter. The validation of having someone else credit your style choices and give you their stamp of approval feels good. Knowing that you inspire others and that your fashion efforts are duly noted gives a high nearly equivalent to narcotics. But sadly, only a certain "type" of user gets to revel in these emotional rewards...

Snapshot: Lookbook.Nu Homepage, Oct. 23rd, 2AM EST
Take a homepage snapshot of any of these fashion communities, on any given day. They will undoubtedly be flooded with images of rail thin, model-esque (or so we think) users who generate tons of followers and rack up all this "HYPE" because essentially their pictures look like editorials snatched straight out of Vogue or Harper's Bazaar. Now considering the lack of anything above a size 0 in the modeling industry, let alone in fashion editorials, how is a plus sized girl to compete in an arena like this? I can't tell you how many outfit posts I've decided not to reveal for fear of criticism or because of the overwhelming and devastating assumption that no one will care.

Snapshot: Lookbook.Nu post with no comments, October 23rd, 2AM EST
I'm new to Lookbook.Nu, so granted I haven't had much experience, but I've personally posted 2 looks on there since joining two weeks ago and it seems they've both gone completely unnoticed. Not a comment, not a "HYPE", not a peep. Is it because I'm new? Or is it, like Jettica points out, because "I'm a fat girl writing about fashion" who is not interesting enough for the masses or not worthy enough to be noted or regarded?

Via PeopleStyleWatch.com

Karl Prouse/Getty; Pascal Le Segretain/Getty; Alfred/Sipa
Now don't get me wrong, the fashion industry has definitely come a long way. It warms my heart to see curvy models like Crystal Renn stomping the runways in Paris, and shows like One Stop Plus actually getting shine during Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week in NYC, and fashion icons like Diane Von Furstenberg cracking down on eating disorders in the modeling industry with CFDA regulations. Tyra Banks and DVF even got rid of the first contestant on this season's ANTM because of her anorexic image! But while the industry can try and correct itself over time, the real power is truly with the people. If users on sites like Chictopia, Lookbook.Nu or Weardrobe are in any way indicative of the fashion-forward masses, then these sentiments still resonate loud and clear. Plus size isn't posh. Curves aren't chic. Hips don't get "HYPE". And thus the unsuspecting outfit-poster who boasts a size of double digits is left to wonder if there's room for her, or if she should just stand by and look.

What do you think? Is there room for the plus sized fashionista in these communities? Soundoff below!
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55 comments:

  1. i definitely think there is room. Gabby of http://www.youngfatandfabulous.com/ became the new MTV twitter jockey because of her thousands of fans, winning 100,000 and kicking off the fatshionistas movement. The blogger at http://fatshionable.com/ is also gorgeous and has LOTS of hits. So there's hope :)

    Vonnie
    http://www.socialitedreams.com/

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    1. Yeah I believe there is room, but you have to call yourself 'fat' first, I don't know, many plus-size bloggers i've seen who got famous usually have the word fat somewhere in their name....

      Che

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    2. Agreed. Being Fat has to be your "thing" - there is no room for a fashion blogger who just wants to blog about fashion and happens to be large.

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  2. 100% believe there is room -- and while it's hard, it's best to ignore the negativity! This is what I love about blogs/online communities -- it's the only place you can see REAL women of all sizes.

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  3. I believe that there is lots of room. I believe that if you stop doing what you love and what you want, then your giving in to the idea that curvy girls can't love fashion. Its not true. We can and do love fashion and we have a large part in the industry. I think you should keep going. Keep posting your outfits, and keep blogging, keep believing that your post matter! Cause that's really the only thing that matters, that you believe!

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  4. You have to keep doing it and I think people will take notice eventually. Put yourself out there!

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  5. Yes there's room and there's a big market for it! I don't see enough blogs from curvy girls maybe because I haven't been made aware of any. If you put yourself out there more they will come! I promise.. :)

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  6. It feels so great to hear all these words of encouragement and to see that women out there do believe there is hope! I just wonder if the users of these fashion communities feel the same way. How long will it really take to see a plus sized girl showcased on the homepage of a Lookbook.nu or a Chictopia?

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  7. In the wider community and in the media? I definitely believe there is room for plus size fashion and it's only a matter of time before fatshion bloggers are pounced upon.

    In the lookbook community? I don't think so. A model look seems to be valued over a good outfit - I've seen tiny girls get thousands of hypes just for a tshirt and denim shorts.

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  8. Ofcourse there is, I bet you that there's alot of people out there that feels the exact same way that you're feeling, but they might look up to you for support one day, not if you quit though! The fashion industry unfortunatly is always going to be mostly a thin womens game, even though more and more plus size models is on the map now the designers and all these big brands are putting their clothes out there in a perspective that if you're gonna wear this item you are going to be a size 0. It's the media that controlls this, so instead of waiting around become the media that changes this. Lovebrownsugar is a great website, just keep going :)

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  9. Such a well written post that I think echoes the sentiments of many women in the fashion industry. I think at the fore-front are the models that portray meretricious guise that fashion equals thin, but in reality the industry is made up of women who represent a more inclusive spectrum of body types. Unfortunately, like you so eloquently stated, these fashion-forward women are not often highlighted (if at all) to the extent of their model sized counterparts.

    I truly think that there is an avenue opening up that includes a more representative view of women (like vogue curve). In the meantime, WE love your blog *especially your fabulous outfit posts*. Continue to be fearless with lovebrownsugar because you are truly inspiring women with curves that they too can have fun with fashion no matter what the industry may or may not have to say.

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  10. Cece, thanks for leaving a comment on my IFB post so I could discover your blog AND this awesome post! I was actually preparing a post about this myself, and I could kick myself for (just last week) throwing out a piece of paper on which I had tallied the most popular votes for Lookbook, Chictopia, Weardrobe, and Hypeed and my findings supported the fact that not only do you have to be thin and pretty—but you have to be white or Asian, or you can pretty much forget ever making it to the top of the list. That is one reason I am NOT these sites. I do not like the way they are skewed to a single beauty/fashion ideal.

    I've been holding off on a post about this for a while, but I think it's due. I'm going to mention you in it because you raise excellent points and I like where you are coming from.

    ♥ V
    http://www.gritandglamour.com
    twitter: @gritandglamour

    PS: I LOVE B in that vid. I pretty much love here all the way around.
    PPS: Following you on Twitter and Bloglovin' now!

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  11. @gritandglamour Thank YOU V! I can't wait to see your response to all this. Makes me feel good that I'm not the only one feeling this way.

    P.S. Beyonce is my life...lol

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  12. i think there;s room, and you're going about it the right way creating your own lane. Personally, I used to visit lookbook every day, but as a thicker girl-- i got tired of seeing the size 0 styles that probably wouldn't look the same on my size 8-10 and d cup figure, and opted for fashion blogs like yours and others.

    If I can figure out how to get an account without submitting my clothes (I'm a free spirt my style is really... not style lol) I'm going to tell all my friends to give you hype points because you have a great sense of style.

    Yay!

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  13. Don't get me started. I got tons of comments on pieces in my outfit when i first posted a picture but no hypes of votes on the sites. It's pretty sad because the ones who get allt he votes to me sometimes just look a jumbled mess on lookbook.

    I don't know all the poses are the same, them looking off into the sky or looking down at the floor. It's the same thing, and it's like you I put something up and people are like I love your ring, but i can't vote for you . it's a simple click.

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  14. Wow. Thank you so much for mentioning my post. I know exactly what you mean. I know I shouldn't care about Lookbook etc but I do. That's so different to real life, in real life my weight doesn't fuss me because I know I'm stylish.

    It's weird what the internet does to you. And thanks to your readers for popping over to my blog to comment.

    So much love <3

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  15. Hey! I just came over from IFB and let me start by saying that you're tackling two different subjects: curvy girls in fashion, and the Lookbook situation.

    I totally agree with that fact that body shape and size has nothing to do with a fashion sense. Or at least it should. And it seems like mainstream fashion is starting to agree as well, e.g. Crystal Renn (the ex anorexic who's now healthy and curvy) was just featured in a Vogue editorial for their 90s birthday.

    Secondy, I would disagree with the fact that lookbook should be considered as representative for the state of the fashion, street style and/or personal style. Just a recent example, I was browsing through lookbook (with my karma metter turned off (btw did you know a bout this karma things?? I just found out recently) and discovered 2 actual children (one 8 and the other 11) who actually had comments and hype. I opend a thread on their forum about this and also emailed Lookbook to ask for they definition of a minor, since they don't want it to be a 'kiddies site'. No replies yet. If you want I'll send the links over, because it's obvious that fashion was not their strong sense. Moreover, if you look through my earliest look, the one which got the most hype is the one when I'm wearing the sparrow print miu miu's, and you can see mostly nothing of my outfit (because of the light) AND nothing of my face. I think it's clear that a fashion sense is not what they're looking for.

    I really enjoyed your article, and I'm really looking forward to reading V's from gritandglamour article as well.

    xx
    Fashezine

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  16. First of all - bravo for this wonderful post! It's about time someone commented on these trends. Second, I hate the fact that someone as beautiful and as stylish as you would feel this way, even for a second. I am not a personal style blogger, but I follow many, and for me the size of the blogger is never important - it is their style.

    I just read over some of these comments and you've gotten some great comments here. Very important conversation, and it's great to see so many involved. I found you via your IFB submission, and am excited to see here that V from grit and glamour will also be posting something on the topic. I actually just quoted you and another blogger in my most recent post, so kudos for the inspiration!

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  17. Chictopia and Lookbook are biased sites. You can't base yourself off of them! Don't worry about it. Just have fun and you'll be okay!!

    www.clothedmuch.com

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  18. Honey you are not plus sized.

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  19. Thank you so much for your comment in my blog. it gives me the chance to get to know you and yours. Most interesting what I see. Do come again.
    XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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  20. I recently had a blogger comrade commend me for posting images of myself to Lookbook. Because I'm not rail thin. I'm not a model. I'm a normal girl who loves fashion.

    And you know what? I'm going to keep doing it. Because it's high time that all women who WANT to be on it SUPPORT each other on it.

    I love seeing someone other than the thin, hipster, unaffected model on there with Mary Kate style. I love seeing the minorities, the curvy girls, the boys on there. It's actually why I DON'T go more often, because I get so bored with what's there.

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  21. It's up Cece, and you're starring:

    FRESH OUT: Why I'm Not on Weardrobe, Chictopia, Lookbook, or Hypeed http://tinyurl.com/2bbqkxv

    ♥ V
    http://www.gritandglamour.com
    twitter: @gritandglamour

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  22. While the fashion communities are full of teen girls posing in their parent bought clothes, I don't think you should let that discourage you. You have fabulous style and should leverage your God given curves to take those sites by storm!

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  23. Very Interesting Post! Like it came across it on twitter: @styleactivist Must Read RT @gritandglamour. I haven't really started the Chictopia much that's what i have other than my Blog Fashions Not A Luxury. Lovely Blog you have & you are Beautiful. Following your Blog. :) x Ari

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  24. You are too gorgeous my love. So glad to see you posted this. You and Vahni really started something. I'm so glad to have met you-you're truly a wonderful person, inside and out<3.

    xx,
    Christina
    www.profreshstyle.com

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  25. I read the post on Grit and Glamour - and then I saw what Christina of Profresh Style wrote - and then I came here...

    Girl! I am basically a mutt when it comes to my ethnicity and I happen to love my curves (big ass and hips) and I couldn't feel more refreshed than I do now. I can't express how overdue it was for someone to tackle this issue, and I am so glad you pulled out the big guns and really wrote from your heart. You are beautiful and you are so well spoken, and no one should be judged by just one photo on a website of thousands. You really opened my eyes and I am thinking about putting together a post for myself about this issue.

    Thanks again, girl!
    You are fabulous - keep workin' it!

    XOXO,
    style activist

    www.styleactivist.blogspot.com
    www.twitter.com/styleactivist

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  26. Here via Grit and Glamour...I wanted to copy part of my comment here:

    "Note to Cece B. : You are beautiful, and I wish I could work a belted LBD and long coat like that! I love the idea of using a wrap dress as coat. I have a DVF wrap dress that doesn’t hang quite right; maybe I’ll try to get some use out of it as a jacket!"

    And I'll add that I love seeing clothes being worn *well* by people of any race, size, gender, style.

    I honestly get a little bored of pictures of young, slim, financially very comfortable Caucasian girls in the latest trends. Please, bloggers who aren't young, slim, financially very comfortable Caucasian girls in the latest trends: show me what you've got, too!

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  27. Oh you've started an avalanche and I'm so glad you did.
    I can relate, I can relate! Thanks for saying it, a lot of us feel it.

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  28. This is such an excellent post. you've articulated what I think many people/bloggers are thinking. It is interesting that you comment the majority of photos look like magazine editorials. I;ve only been on lookbook twice but I noticed the exact same thing, and wondered why this is.

    I'm an average sized girl and I decided against putting any pictures on lookbook simply for the fact I don't think it fits the demoraphic the users of the site are looking for.

    I love your leopard print wrap dress, I saw it in a previous post of yours and though I've got to get me one of those!

    Em K
    http://loveoflaceemmettk.blogspot.com/

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  29. Wow, what a great post!

    Even as a size 4, I feel totally insecure about my photos. It seems like most of the popular photos on Chictopia are pictures of rail-thin, pretty girls in oversized shirts, leggings, and high heels. When I post a picture of myself in what I consider to be a much more creative outfit, it gets no attention--even if it's a really cool photo.

    I think what it is is that we've come to conflate style with thinness and beauty because magazines, television, movies--pop culture in general--perpetuate the female ideal as a size 0, 5'9" woman.

    What I find heartening is that bloggers like Jen Loves Kev, Calivintage, Keiko Lynn, Iris and Daniel, etc., are not of that type. I feel like the famous BLOGGERS, rather than hyped chictopians or lookbook users, are famous for their content and style, not their looks. Although they're all super cute, as are you!

    Sophi
    ohsosophi.blogspot.com

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  30. Sophi i have to agree because i see smaller girls with really nice day to day outfits that are simple but unique and because they aren't staring off into space or in a field filled with wildflowers people don't hype them either.

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  31. Man did you take the thoughts right out of my mind. I was thinking about this the other day when I was looking at my chic votes on Chictopia. I think that there are so many people who are not ready to give curves a chance and I can't understand it for the life of me. On these wardrobe sites a curvy girl can post a very similar look as someone smaller and receive little to no votes, but, the smaller girl has received hundreds. And you're so right that we have never graced the front page of these sites either. I know tons of curvy girls who post on these sites and their looks are front page worthy. What disappoints me about this is that these sites continuously get away with this, but, I think this post just may put an end to it. Thanks for speaking out.

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  32. Well written!!!!
    You make a really strong case.
    I think the answer is in your statement. You've been holding back from posting photos because you're not sure how they will be received. I say post more and set the new standard for style bloggers. You'll be surprisd how many comrades will come out of the wood work!

    www.iheartcocoon.com

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  33. I loved this post. After blogging for over a year, I've finally had enough courage to come out and start doing outfit posts (just started my first round of pictures last night). I was feeling just like you were - insecure that my curves wouldn't be noticed!

    I agree with CoCoon in her comment too. If enough of us banded together and take the blogosphere by storm, people have no choice but to notice. Posts like these definitely opens up dialogue which is a great first step! We could start a movement for sure to get more diversity in the blogosphere!

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  34. I think there is favoritism to certain bloggers. I will say I often get 0 on lookbook and I am tall and skinny. While I do think that some of the best outfits do get noticed, I think a lot of the times people don't even look through the recent parts and only the popular ones. I think you're gorgeous! I found you through the independent fashion bloggers link and enjoy reading this so much. I do see that often your point makes sense, but at the same time I have seen a few bigger girls who do get noticed often. I tend to look more at the outfit content rather than the size of a person when I am liking/hyping people.

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  35. Your Lookbook pics are wonderful, and I am glad you posted them. I think blogs and the Internet are a great new mean to show diversity and to find like-minded people, besides the stereotypes shown in traditional media. However, because of the large number of blogs and pictures it gets harder to get noticed in the masses.

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  36. I may not be that curvy but I'm not tiny either and even I have trouble getting any likes on Chictopia, and it really bugs me! I will occasionally get 1 or 2 comments but thats all. And it's often the same people who follow me. So I totally get where your coming from!

    Daisy Dayz Home
    Cross-Jones-Photography Home

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  37. I just have to say that after reading this post, I think I just met another one of my soul sisters. :) Much like you, I feel that way whenever I visit Lookbook, to the point that I don't visit it anymore. I really get inspired by what the people there are posting, but a lot of times, I just end up getting depressed. Mainly because I want to be able to wear some of the stuff they post there, but most of those stuff won't look good on me because I'm plus-sized.

    But, I don't let that get in my way. In my head, I'm not plus-sized. I always see myself as someone fit. I don't know how to explain it, but if I think about myself, I don't mind my figure.

    You're beautiful, and from what I can see, you're confident as well. :)I feel for you, and I know that it must be hard. I'm plus-sized too. And people always (as in always) comment on that. There was even one time when this guy that I don't know offered me slimming pills. On most days, I just shrug them off, and I honestly don't give a fuck. But, there will always come a time (like the one you just had) when you'd start questioning yourself. I get that too.

    It's confusing. Am I the one who has to adjust to these people? Or should they just accept who I am physically? The latter is not an option, as some of you would probably say. I think what's really wrong here is that the 'less than size 6 (i really don't know the preference but you get the point) models' mentality is too ingrained in a lot of people's minds. And that's why they can't accept the concept of plus-sized models.

    But, I believe that it is gradually changing. I guess, the only thing that we can do right now, is to continue what we're doing. It won't happen overnight. But, if more people are aware and exposed, if more people advocate for this cause, then we may have a chance. Hell, we really have a chance. :)

    I just want to say that you are really beautiful. And I know it's easier said than done, but don't let it get to you. One of my best-est friends ever once told me: "Don't give up just yet. Sometimes, the best part happens after the worst. It would be worth it. Maybe not today, not tomorrow, not next month, not this year. But the who knows what awaits us?"

    And I believe in that. Maybe, after this post of yours, people will be flooding your lookbook posts. Or maybe not. I cannot guarantee which one. But like the quote said, don't give up just yet. Something good is bound to come out of what you're doing. :)

    You're really confident. And you have a lot of people supporting you, and that's a plus. ;) Your post really touched my heart. It's good to know that I'm not alone. :)

    Anyway, I would like to share with you one last quote from Nina Garcia's book, The Little Black Book of Style:

    "And once you've got confidence, the rest is gravy."

    There's a HUGE difference between a fat girl, and a CONFIDENT fat girl. I fervently believe you're the latter. Don't let them get you down. :)

    Keep it up! Take care dear!


    ❤Eura

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  38. Let me first think Stylish Curves for sending me your way. I'm a skinny girl who absolutely loves and adores fashion. That's what I see when I read your blog....style and ways to mix it up and create looks that I like. I say this alot and I'll say it here because it certainly is worth its weight in gold: "A woman's greatest accessory is her confidence" (which you have and exude!) ~My Barber (and he's a real guy who says what he means and means what he says). Keep writing and smiling for the camera. We are watching :0)

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  39. I think I love you. Seriously, I actually teared up reading this because it is something I am really struggling to address myself.

    I love fashion. I blog about it. But I am too scared of posting my outfits photos because I feel like I don't fit the fashion blogger mould. I'm not fat, not by any stretch of the imagination, but I am a girl with boobs and a bit of thigh. I feel like I will never be able to compete with the other famous fashion bloggers because I am not a stick. And that, in my opinion, is tragic.

    I think you are beautiful and that your attitude is refreshing. The only way the industry will change is if there are enough voices saying that you don't have to be rail thin to be beautiful or a part of the fashion world.

    You've also inspired me to start posting my outfit photos, once and for all.

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  40. I don't post outfit pictures either (not only am I not skinny, I'm not young) but I think you're being overly hasty to say "they don't love me!" after only posting two! outfits.

    There's maybe a half-dozen people I follow on lookbook, and the most interesting and exciting of those (who has, alas, stopped posting) posted looks for MONTHS without a single comment or heart. She's white, thin as a rail, put her clothes together with the eye of a runway designer, and had gorgeous atmospheric pictures shot by her partner - but only in the last year of postings (and she's got looks going back three years) did she start to get floods of hype and comments.

    It's a huge community, and unless you already have a social network of followers and friends to get you started, it's going to take you some time to get noticed in the stream. (Particularly since, as @Ioana Liliana Gheorghe points out, the karma filter is applied by default - so if your outfits aren't hyped, you won't show up in the regular front page - a catch-22 situation.)

    I agree that it can be harder to be (or at least feel) stylish - let alone fashionable - by the popular definition if you aren't a shiny waif, and it's a bit of a self-perpetuating ideal. At the same time, if that makes you hesitant to show us your own beauty, how will anyone see it and expand their own ideas?

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  41. I just found this post (a little late to the party!), and I loved it! I am not gonna reiterate what everyone else said, but I did want to add this:

    I am white, a size ten. I am not popular AT ALL on Chictopia, lookbook, or weardrobe. I post an outfit every day. I will continue posting, just so I can be a 'different' thing to look at. Perhaps I can help tip the scale!

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  42. soo Im late, but just wanted to tell you keep doing what you do girl! And what the hell is plus size anyway? I hate that phrase...like who is this "standard size"? A chick smaller than me was on ANTM and they called her plus size. wtf? You look hot in the pic btw and most of the posts and times I see you!! Dont even worry about all the people who wouldnt be reading or commenting on your posts. They're missing out anyway. In the meantime Ill keep reading and hopefully one day be as fashionable as you! :)

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  43. I found you through the style sample blog. Ill be honest, I was very surprised to see a curvy girl doing the fashion blog thing. I just have not ever seen it. But Im glad you're here. Diversity of all sorts is important, and I sincerely hope it makes you happy to put this blog out there.

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  44. Wow this post was written so well! I completely understand where you're coming from. Although I am not a fashion blogger, I do visit Look Book from time to time. Now being a size 13 there are some times where i'm like damnn that outfit would look nice on me if I was a couple sizes smaller but to hell with that! I'm proud to say that I am comfortable in my skin and its people like YOU that give me the motivation to do so. We all have our moments so don't beat yourself up for feeling that way. You're fabulous and don't let anyone (I mean ANYONE) tell you otherwise. You're doing such a wonderful thing here by shining a positive light on us thick women. <3

    http://myeclecticheart.wordpress.com/

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  45. Not to necro this post or anything, but I found this while googling (for blog posts about awesome shoes) and you piqued my curiosity. I am a member of Chictopia and have not gotten many comments either. I don't think that necessarily has to do with size, though (I'm a size 4-6.)

    A lot of the popular girls are popular because the owners of those accounts pimp their profiles. I wish I had the energy to post on a 100 people's profiles a day, but I can only type "LOVE<333" or "CHIC!!1" so many times before I start to feel like a phony and an idiot.

    I also notice that certain sites cater to certain styles. For instance, Chictopia's general population likes younger, edgier styles, sort of like Rihanna and maybe Lady Gaga type stuff. There's lots of short skirts, wild looking heels, and scraggly hair going on. Lookbook strikes me the same way, except maybe more trendy, e.g. hipsters. There's another site, I can't remember the name, but it's conservative compared to the aforementioned sites, no avant garde stuff. My point is, you've got to play to your audience.

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  46. AMEN to most of the comments under this post. Being a blogger who's main target is the community of curvy gals I try to stay focused on the passion that I have for myself & hope that the readers I draw to my blog are exposed to a different perspective that "challenge" them as a person to embrace all people....and that is including the forsaken.

    www.thelushepisodes.com

    S Nicole - the lush expert

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  47. im not totally agreeing with you but also not disagreeing.

    as a fellow lookbooker i must say when i hype looks i hype according to if i like the actual outfit. i don't judge by the size of the person not to say that i dont notice... because that would be a lie!

    but i think everyone is beautiful and if you can style yourself well kudos to you!
    but honestly the example look you put up was just average :| not to say it didn't deserve any hypes!

    ASIDE ALL THATTTTT
    i do agree the thinner good looking people get more hypes even when there outfits are just average :\

    it's sad to say ... but however many times people may say they are only critiquing an outfit they are also looking at the person... its disgusting but i think if you keep going at it you'll get the hypes you DESERVE :)

    good luck!

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  48. Thanks for your comment Anonymous. I actually haven't posted anything to any of those networks since writing this post and I don't think I will again. I've chosen to keep my outfit posts on my blog, where I know I have a faithful group of folks who appreciate my outfits.

    I think your comment above about skinny people wearing "regular" outfits getting more hype goes to prove the point of this entire post. It really shouldn't be that way. It's an evaluation with self that needs to happen when it is. Thanks much for ur feedback :)

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  49. I'm expanding my online boutique to extended sizes, would definitely love to pick your mind and get some feed back. email me at darv@causeofmyjoy.com and the site is www.causeofmyjoy.com

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  50. I adore girls who can simply carry their dress without any hesitation. Whether their skinny or fat. I appreciate it because its fashion, its in the way on how you carry and mix clothes and accessory and come up with a new trend.

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  51. Hit i'm a curvy blogger. I tried with lookbook and got no where at all ( sad face) but I was on another site ( the fun lookbook) called Chicisimo. Miles better and I have loves and comments right away and the all important FLOWERS.Chicisimo is about the attitude and clothes not the ill people that wear them.I have realized that if I was normal height I may have been a size 8/10 but being on the verge of 5'11" everything is bigger. HELLO I have size 9 feet. As many people say bigger is better. I have also thought about setting up a new outfit side called 12 and bigger or something. No skinnies. big girls we are beautiful. what do you think?

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